Every child or person goes through a lot many
changes during their journey of life, and no two persons develop at the same
momentum. One may reach a stage early in life as compared to the other. Each
individual grows at its own pace. Reaching a stage earlier in life or later
generally does not indicate whether a child or person will be advanced or
delayed later in life.
These life changes and different stages of
life are called “Development Milestones”. These are various capabilities
developed over the period of time from being simple to complex. Parents play an
important role in developing their child, in a way, which is well suited for
their age. A parent should make sure that they track their child’s growth
timely so that every child reaches the appropriate milestone at the right time.
They should know that even though their children are imbibing information like
sponges, they still need to be guided to “use it all” the correct way.
While parents do their bit, United Nations
also has various organizations, namely UNICEF, UNESCO, which provide
humanitarian development to children along with their parents, especially
mothers,for a better and healthier lifestyle. The pre-adolescent age is vital
for growth and development. Various other independent organizations such as the
Sunflower Learning Centre, Delhi, India, also work towards the same aim as that
of various international organisations.
While working with the kids of this age, the
education system must be a culmination of knowledge, health and etiquettes. The
growing mind is a lot like clay, hence can be moulded in any way. The language,
behaviour and response to different situations, social interaction etc. should
be focused and worked upon as this makes their basic nature. An example of this
is Japan, children below the age of 8 are not enrolled in schools, they are
taught manners, etiquettes, and always to be kind to all.
As important is the education in today’s
date, it is also important to be empathetic and generous; to maintain personal
hygiene and cleanliness in one’s surrounding. These are some basics that need
to be taught and practised. Toilet training, sanitation and sex education are
some also important concepyts to look into.
Instead of pressurizing or forcing knowledge
upon the student, techniques of practical learning should be practised more
often as it will keep the learning process fun, fruitful and engaging. Self-contentment
and Self-love must be inculcated as it will always make one feel complete and
confident. It is basic human nature to fear loss or defeat, but if taught to be
optimistic and to see the positive out of each situation at this tender age, it
will always motivate a child to learn, grow as a person.
Each good or bad habit practised at this age
will be a part of their nature, therefore practising all positive and healthy
habits before the kids is a must, since that is what they will learn for their
future. The age group of 4 to 11 years is such, where the child actually
transmits into the world and builds up their personality. The true foundation
is formed during the this tenure of 4 to 11 years.
A human’s roots are the most vital part and
requires careful nourishment and care. The foundation of a man is made based on
its roots and the roots aregrown at a very initial stage. You cannot let the
plant grow and then plan to enhance or rectify the roots. You can give your
best treatment to the roots only at the time it is being grown or being set up.
The root system of a plant constantly provides the stems and leaves with water
and dissolved minerals, similarly the roots or thebasics of a human provides
with the personality of a man which makes the man excel in life. The idea
ofcomparing a manto a plant was to understand the significance of the initial
growth of both. Both of them need a strong foundation at thebase to grow and
prosper. One might say that a man can start prospering from the day he decides
to. Although this is true, but it is always easier for a person, to grow in a
better manner if they are moulded from the very beginning . One can only
upgrade ormodify the base structure but cannot replace it. If the foundation from
the very beginning is deep rooted it shall sustain for long in the positive
There are certain salient aspects of life
which a child shall go through during his race to become a man. The credential
value at the moment of these minute things won’t be much in our eyes seeing it
from the top but if we actually give a glance to these aspects we understand
the true influential power it upholds.
One of the significant and visible milestone
would be the child’s physical growth. This change would be clearly visible to
the parents and friends around. By the age of 5 years the infant almost doubles
his height hehad when he was born. The radical change in life is enjoyed and
brings smiles. Although for good development of an infant its important for the
parents to make sure they get adequate protein and vitamins. These nutrients
are crucial for a solid physical structure. The guardians are to make sure that
the infant gets a perfect combination of carbohydrates, essential vitamins and
Around the age of 4 to 5 the infant starts to
speak fluently and another task for the parents is to work on Language
Development of the child. They should be taught good vocabulary and grammar
skills. Parents and relatives should also avoid use of foul or indecent
language infront of infants as during this age the grasping power is at its
peak and they tend to grasp anything they hear around them and specially what
they hear from their parents and dear ones. A 4-year-old is a cooperative
playmate and would rather hang out with other kids than go solo. A child of
this age starts to understand bonds and relations and want to achieve the
maximum.During this phase it is important for kids to know the basic gender
distinction. They need to learn to use the words ‘he’ and ‘she’ correctly and also
should understand identification of other objects.
As the infant grows they becomes socially
active and strong and hence it is important for parents to keep a watch on
their on Social Development. During the Social Development phase, it is
important to work on the anxiety level of the child. During this tenure the
child shows empathy and develops real friendships. They startto care about
what his friends think and wants to fit in
the society. Thechild can share better than ever, though he may still have
trouble putting another’s needs ahead of his own.
Another important aspect as
it comes is of Toilet training which again is often ignored and not taken into
consideration as one of the primes but help in systematic and hygienic upbringing
of the child. Sanitation habits should not be ignored by parents at this
crucial stage. It may seem to be a very pity thing to work on but holds a
crucial point in the overall development . It is the tasks and skills children master that truly
identify what stage they are in. Because of this, different children of the
same age can be expected to be at different developmental stages or milestones.
Around the age of 10 to 11
years the Child gets into power struggles with the peers as they gain
confidence. The child starts to imitate the way parents or relatives interact
with other people and grasps the actions and body language. As the child gains
confidence he builds up a sense of humor and looks to peers for approval. The
child feels he is a grown up and also wants to become his own advocate.
Hence, it is to be noted
that a child is to be moulded from the very beginning of his life so that he
grows into a human being with the accurate values and life lessons. A child
neglected at the tender age might suffer in the long run. Parents play a crucial
role in the development of their child into a person who is best suited for the
society. Every child is to be brought up in a way wherein his actions do not
cause any harm to any other individual and also no harm to the society at
Parents should diligently
help their child grow in the best way possible which is appropriate for the
child as well as best suited for the society. Every child must reach the
“Development Milestones” of his life at the right time. Whether it is a girl or
it is a boy, both the genders need to be moulded similarly so that they develop
into a human being with the best suited qualities and values of life.
A girl at the age of 4 and a
guy at the age of 4 act and react similarly since they are at the infant stage
and therefore, the parents need to follow similar ways to mould both the girl
child and the boy child. With the passage of time when bothe the genders reach
the age of 11 or more, then the parents may vary the techniwues and tacts to
teach the girl child and boy child different life lesson suited for their gender.
But both the genders are to be treated with equality and should be developed at
the same phase. Every individual must grow into a human being with
thoughtfulness, humanity and dignity irrespective of the child being a girl or
Nuture and mould the child
from the very beginning before it is late.